There have been occasions when the media have acted dynamically and constructively by championing cases of injustice. It would be wonderful if they did this more as well as making connections about the lack of provisions for those affected by violent crime. However, generally the media thrive on criminal horror and it is too often presented as if it were a form of television drama instead of factual, dignified, serious and measured reporting. This degrades the people affected and creates an unpleasant and voyeuristic perspective that sensationalises a violent criminal act. It also de-sensitises us as a nation from horror because often real-life violence becomes blurred with entertainment. As the media tries to capture every nuance of despair as entertainment-style reporting, the victim’s own private and personal tragedy is unfolding, a situation deserving dignity and not exploitation.

The media could do so much more good in raising the issues of violence in society and the daily impact on and needs of victims. This would ensure the needs of people receive the prominent political attention they deserve. The media too often fails to produce sustained features that seriously raise public debate and lay the constructive views of people at the doors of the powers of government. The media could assist vulnerable groups in many constructive ways rather than sometimes cheapening, and adding a further dimension to, private tragedies.

If a recent private incident has taken place and the media want attention

It is not advisable to make public what is, in reality, your private and emerging agony. The media should be dealt with very carefully, for although they can play a useful role, you must discuss with a lawyer and the police what you can say and what you should not. This is because it may have a negative effect on police investigations and the potential for a successful prosecution. We have witnessed how the media has affected several publicised court cases. This author strongly urges people not to use the media as a source of attention and to remember that your personal tragedy is only today’s news.

It may be better to have the police or a solicitor read written statements and, for your privacy, it is best to try to make yourself invisible and refuse photographs.

When you engage with the media, you will lose all privacy and this will affect how well you are able to re-build your life and the lives of those around you who are important and have also been affected. The British media generally does not respect the grief of people and those about you can often find themselves forever beholden to them - with or without consent.

Please refer to the section in my handbook about dealing with the media